A true friendship lasts a lifetime, even if you don’t see each other for years on end. The moment you do, its like you were never apart. Loyalty, respect, secrecy, a willingness to go the extra mile, and always looking out for one another are all part of a true friendship.

In life we meet numerous people and statistics indicate that on average people interact with approximately 80,000 people during their life span. Out of all of these individuals you and your friends have been aligned to develop a connection and human experience only unique to the traits that you each possess. Although each friendship is different, there are certain underlying characteristics that every true friend will hold.

1. Through Thick and Thin They Are Always A Friend

When times get tough, your friend will stick by your side, especially when you need them the most. These will be the times that assist the both of you in growing and developing while each of you evolve at various stages of your life. If someone is only around during pleasant times, they will have a limited view of you and a true authentic connection will not be sustainable. In addition, if someone flees or has difficulty being around you when times are good due to jealousy, envy, or unhealthy competition, they will not have the opportunity to grow with you. If the people that you consider your friends are not willing to grow with you then you will grow apart. This often happens when people are not apart of every aspect of who you are both good and bad.

 

2. They Accept You As You Are

They see your ‘flaws’ and accept you regardless. The 21st century saw the rise of judgments and differences. People are using comparative thought to put others down or raise themselves up. For someone to get close enough to see you in clear light and still love and accept you is amazing.

Not because you are a messed up person or anything, because it takes a lot of love to accept the flaws in ourselves AND others simultaneously.

 

3. There Is No Shortage Of Support

A true friend needs to be able to see and provide support when we need it, in a form we can accept. There are times where our best efforts will not be enough to cope with the realities we find ourselves faced with.

A friend needs to understand when this is happening and help in a way that doesn’t strip us of your independence or personal strength.

4. They Make Time For You

You need to be a priority in their life. If you ever ask them to come to your aid, they should make every reasonable attempt to do so. It is also on you to not abuse or disrespect their time!

5. You Feel Totally Comfortable Around Them

A person can tell you that they accept and respect you. They can be there for you when you need it most. If that voice deep in your gut doesn’t feel comfortable with this person, you should examine that feeling. It maybe that you are being played for some other reason.

6. They Are Honest With You

A lasting, productive friendship has the same roots that all deeper interpersonal relationships should be based off. Genuine and truthful communication is a necessary cornerstone. They won’t say something to simply appease you or say something, then do the exact opposite.